I have been dealing with a situation for almost nine years. I have worked past it, through it, shrugged it off, been the eagle and went high instead of going down into the gutters of life with this situation. Recently this has escalated and gotten out of hand and this situation was presented to people that I thought would help. I thought they would alleviate the gravity of dealing with someone who has followed me, sabotaged my work and deadlines, someone who stares at me non-stop and constantly takes the opportunity to be in my space whenever she can.
I was told that this person is not a problem, that she is just kind of her own little island, that she is never seen talking or bothering anyone. I sat there, trying to contain my anger as everything that I have went through for the past nine years was invalidated, negated, and tossed to the side….I sat there and listened to me being branded as a liar. As I was leaving today, this stalker crazy person, stood up at her desk. Out of the corner of my eye, I could see her staring at me. I looked back at her and she was indeed watching me the whole time, her face had an odd smile on it.
One of the most hurtful things that you can do to a human being is to not consider what they are saying. I know we all have our own perspectives and beliefs, but when someone tells you something that is a concern to them, then you owe it to them to at least listen without negating their concern. You don’t have to believe them, you don’t have to support, they may even be lying….there is a way to get to the bottom of all of that without immediately invalidating their concern.
This happens so often in world. People only believe what they see. They see a person smile and they just assume that there is nothing bad behind it. The devil never jumps out and says that I am the devil. Evil and manipulation is disguised in the things and in the ways that puts people at ease. Until we take the time and develop the depth within ourselves to discern beyond the mask, we will be constantly deceived.