His Best Friend

Do you know what I like about this video from President and First Lady Obama?  I like the fact that he called Michelle Obama is best friend.  I love it!  How blessed is she to have a man who realizes the importance of having his wife as his best friend.

We live in a world where men are married, but having another woman deemed as his best friend – this has always seemed a little off to me.   I mean come on….if I have committed to loving you and building our lives together, shouldn’t I be your best friend as a woman.   Don’t get me wrong, it is important for the man in my life to have friends and even another best friend…if he is a man.   I can think of no woman, who would be satisfied with another woman having influence over her man and her household.  I can think of no woman, who would be pleased with her husband needing to talk to his best friend so he calls Susie for advice on his life, but you are the one living life with him….oh heck naw.    This has nothing to do with insecurities or jealously, but has everything to do with boundaries.  I am sure that Susie would tell you that there is no harm in her being your husband’s best friend, but at the same time would never tolerate her man having a female best friend.  This is a real issue, one that needs to be discussed early on in a relationship.  You would think that this would be the natural gravity in the course of dating and growing to love someone but that is not always the case,  it is worth knowing,

Greater Tragedies

Sally walked in the break room fresh from the cold and you are looking for that hot cup of coffee, but….the coffee is cold.  There has been an electrical malfunction and all of the appliances are off in the break room.   The first thing that Sally does is start to fussing about nothing is right around the office and no cares anyone, blah blah blah…..


This happens in offices everywhere around the world each morning…something in some way shape or another, something has happened to the coffee.

Well to all my Sally-ies of the world let me tell you something, while you don’t have a fresh hot cup of coffee……

someone doesn’t even have water, someone slept out in the cold last night, a child was molested, someone was shot, someone was killed, a pet died, a loved one passed away, someone is homeless, someone is hungry, a child doesn’t feel safe, a wife was beaten, someone is hungry, someone lives in the midst of a war, someone was kidnapped and trafficked for sex, someone is blind, someone is deaf, someone is paralyzed from a car accident, someone is struggling with cancer….someone is wishing that they had the job that you have right now and would gladly do without the coffee.

Sally….there are greater tragedies in the world and what you should do instead of complaining about being without coffee is to be thankful that you are not experiencing one of them right now.

The Greatest Gift

I went shopping last weekend for a hat, yes just a hat.  There was such a hustle and bustle about the stores with people hacking their way through their Christmas lists.  What should be fun for them seemed stressful.   Here are some things that I heard:

I have to get this for Suzie and Tommie wants this but I can’t find it. 

I am so stressed out.

I don’t have time to get all of this done.

I am tired.

I will have to wait until next week’s paycheck.

Let’s get this done so we can get the heck out of here.

This made me sad.  This is not what the Christmas season is about.  If this is you, I challenge you to do something different this year.  Why not spend more time with family gatherings or going to Christmas programs, or having a movie night to watch Elf and play board games, how fun is that?  I made up my mind a long time ago that I will not be bogged down with gift giving this time of year.  I am not cheap and I love to give gifts from my heart throughout the year, not just because of the pressure of the season.

I don’t know how many times I have heard people say that they “they are going to buy Christmas”, or “my kids are going to have a Christmas”…..

With or without gifts….there is Christmas and I long for others to understand that the greatest gift of Christmas is a warm and loving heart toward one another the whole year through.

Peace to you and yours,